I recently finished reading “How to Love Yourself (and Sometimes Other People)” by Meggan Watterson and Lodro Rinzler, and I must say, it’s been an enlightening journey. As someone who loves exploring self-help books, particularly those centered around personal growth and relationships, I was drawn to this title because of its emphasis on self-love as a foundation for loving others. The idea that love isn’t something we have to earn resonated with me deeply, and I was eager to see how the authors would unpack this vital concept.
This book takes an engaging approach, with alternating viewpoints from Watterson, who draws from Christian mysticism, and Rinzler, rooted in Buddhist teachings. Their dialogues create a rich tapestry of insights that make the book feel like a conversation between friends. The chapters are organized into relevant categories, making it easy to dip in and out as needed, and they are filled with meditative practices, personal anecdotes, and practical advice.
One standout positive for me was the heartfelt stories the authors share about their own experiences with love, relationships, and self-acceptance. As noted by Hedda Joy in her review, this book seems to address a more profound need for those of us who might have felt sad or disconnected at times. The raw honesty in the authors’ accounts of their struggles provides comfort, allowing readers to feel less alone in their journey.
Another aspect I appreciated was how the book encourages a mindset shift—seeing a potential partner not as someone who “completes” you, but rather as someone who mirrors your wholeness. This notion, as highlighted in the book’s description, is empowering and aligns beautifully with the teachings of self-worth and independence. Watterson and Rinzler provide thoughtful meditations on dating, single life, and nurturing lasting relationships, something many readers will find valuable.
However, not everything was perfect. One common critique I noticed was regarding the depth of the guidance provided. For instance, while the authors offer meditative practices and tips, some readers, like Jes_074, expressed a desire for more in-depth actionable steps on how to love oneself. I found myself agreeing with this sentiment at times; while the narratives were compelling, I too yearned for deeper exploration on the topic of self-love and specific techniques to implement in daily life.
Additionally, some readers mentioned that the book may resonate more with those who are single rather than in committed relationships. This perspective echoed in a review by an Amazon customer, and I think it’s valid. Though the teachings on self-love are universal, the application might differ for someone already in a relationship, who might be seeking more tailored advice on navigating love alongside a partner.
In summary, “How to Love Yourself (and Sometimes Other People)” is a beautifully written guide that genuinely aims to help readers cultivate a richer relationship with themselves before turning outwards. The blend of personal stories and spiritual wisdom is refreshing and offers a wonderful reminder of the importance of self-acceptance.
While I would have appreciated a deeper dive into actionable steps for loving oneself, the heartfelt insights and practical teachings are well worth the read. For anyone looking to reframe their understanding of love, whether single or in a relationship, I wholeheartedly recommend this book. It may provide you with the essential tools to find joy not just in relationships with others, but also in the one you have with yourself.